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Why I don’t dream the American dream

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I dream of New York. Hollywood has shaped what I imagine it to be – romantic walks down tree-lined streets, orange leaves whirling around… it is autumn in New York after all. I dream of sunny Los Angeles. I yearn to connect with cousins I haven’t seen in years – to have barbecues with them in their backyard, to cialis for sale online enjoy the sunny afternoons with the air cold and crisp. I dream of these and more about the States, but I buycialisonline-treated don’t really dream of living there. I don’t dream the American dream. There are many reasons why I’d love to visit, but there are more reasons why I choose to stay.

I believe that whatever I’m doing now contributes to the success of the country. “May pag-asa pa ba generic viagra cialis canada Pilipinas?,” a friend living overseas asked me once. “Parang wala na eh. Migrate ka na.” I laughed it off, joking that it can be a possibility. The truth is I believe the Philippines, my Philippines has a good today and a good future. Change is coming, the elections of yesterday predicted. Change has come, news headlines of today declare. I’m curious and excited about the road ahead for the country, and I love being part of this evolution. Yes, may pag-asa ang Pilipinas. Kailan ba tayo nawalan ng pag-asa?

My roots are here. Many of my friends have shared that they can’t leave because they feel they are grounded here, in heart and soul. I feel the same way. My family is here. My parents are here. They don’t see themselves migrating, and truth is I want to stay connected with them as much as I can. Time is fleeting; my parents are aging. I enjoy the little moments we spend together – quietly eating a meal at the kitchen table with my Dad, fervently gossiping with my Mom about the latest news in politics or showbiz. “Putulin mo na yang umbilical cord mo sa Nanay mo,” advised a friend united states online pharmacy viagra of mine. I thought about what he said, this strong bond I have with my Mom that I can’t seem to leave our family home, even if I have a family of my own. But there’s a strong, unwritten, unverbalized emotion that I feel when I’m with her. Clingyness? True. Maybe. Love? Certainly. There is a need in me that wants to see my parents everyday, and I don’t think I can deal with being too far from them. It may sound like I’m overly attached to them, but the truth is I know I don’t have an infinite time with them. So I enjoy what time I have with them, squabbles and all. They keep me rooted here.

“Mas aasenso kayo pag nag-abroad kayo,” another friend advised. I thought about it again and had a serious bestotc-viagraonline.com talk with my husband about it. Can we provide a better life for our child if we migrate? Will we have a more comfortable life if we live in the States? Perhaps yes, perhaps not. We won’t really know until it happens, right? I believe your future is what you make of it. I believe that if we live abroad, we can find a way to make life more prosperous for ourselves, for our son. But if that can be done abroad, that can be done locally too. We are hard workers, my husband and I. We try our best today to provide for our child. There are times when we wished we had better work arrangements, better benefits, but the truth and the fact is this: we have enough. Life can be more prosperous for sure. Life can viagra in dubai be more comfortable. But right here, right now, while we strive to make life more comfortable here in the Philippines for our family, we are happy. We have enough.

Perhaps that’s why I don’t dream the American dream. I am happy where I am. There are many reasons why I can move, but there are also many reasons why I can stay. Why walk away when there are reasons to stay?

Toni Tiu (148 Posts)

Toni Tiu is a training director, brand strategist, and features writer. She is the author of Wifely Steps, a blog that started out to help newlyweds adjust to married life. It has since evolved into a home and parenting blog where she writes about things close to her heart – good eats, good reads, and the little things that make everyday happy.


About Toni Tiu

Toni Tiu is a training director, brand strategist, and features writer. She is the author of Wifely Steps, a blog that started out to help newlyweds adjust to married life. It has since evolved into a home and parenting blog where she writes about things close to her heart – good eats, good reads, and the little things that make everyday happy.

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