“Nothing outside of ourselves will ever make us happy, because happiness is an inside-out experience.” – Robert Anthony
Man, by his very nature, is insatiable. There is no single thing that can ever make us completely happy, because the key to finding happiness is not in material things but in your inner attitude. Why do some people live their lives with so much bliss despite having so little? The answer is simply to affirm your happiness, because happiness is a choice. Why not be like Emmet from The Lego Movie and start seeing everything as awesome as it is?
Easier said than done, so start small
Think positive—that’s something that well-meaning people tell us every now and then. When something does not go the way we planned, we are always encouraged to find the positive side, the silver lining. Looking at a glass that’s half full is not as easy as it sounds, especially on days when our whole world seems to be crumbling down. Still, if you keep practicing—even on just the little things—you’ll eventually change your whole perspective on all the negativity in your life.
For instance, try to start with something small, like a missed television show. Instead of focusing on the much-awaited episode you missed, think of it as gaining an extra hour in your day to spend with your family and friends. Keep going in the same direction until you can tackle the bigger things in life, like losing a job opportunity or a new big project. Don’t tell yourself to mourn over the missed opportunity. Instead, tell yourself that you now finally have some time to get back on your hobbies or on your regular exercise your body so desperately needs.
Happiness in all areas of life
We all have our own problems in the different aspects of our daily life. But no matter how overwhelming an issue seems to be, there is always room for happiness to set in—you only have to choose to let it.
When it comes to love and rocky relationships, always remember that you and your partner share a deep love for each other, one that’s always looking out for each other’s best interests. Affirm that you have emotional intimacy and that you accept each other exactly as you are, flaw and quirks and all. Tell yourself that you enjoy each other’s company, you keep healthy lines of communication open, and that you have the ability to resolve issues peacefully and with the utmost respect for each other.
In terms of career success, expect to be triumphant in whatever your endeavor is. Believe that you can overcome roadblocks and move past challenges because of your abilities, and that minor setbacks cannot stop you from achieving your goal. Know that mistakes can help you learn and improve on your skills. Get rid of the fear or use it to fuel your ambitions. Saying this mantra could help: “I am successful today, tomorrow, and every day.”
You can also affirm your happiness to achieve peace and wellness. Simply be mindful that your body is full of positive energy, that you are free of pain, and that you are perfectly able to replenish your body with the proper nourishment it deserves. Feel that your body is healing and that you feel a little better with each passing day. Learn to relieve your stress as you breathe in and out, and affirm that your vitality is a blessing that you can enjoy every day. Surround yourself with people who support and encourage you on your path to inner peace and happiness, and when you are finally content, do not forget to sow the seeds and spread this joy to other people. After all, Cynthia Nelms said that “Nobody really cares if you’re miserable, so you might as well be happy.”
Affirming happiness by taking action
Now that you have the proper mindset to begin your journey to affirmation, it’s time to put those thoughts into action. If you feel like you are having trouble with your newfound worldview, write it down. Don’t just type it on your computer or on your mobile phone—take the time to get a pen and a piece of paper and have everything in ink. Never underestimate the power of a handwritten note to yourself. By identifying the negative thoughts and beliefs that hold you down, you can find ways to turn them into positive vibes. Writing them down connects your physical self with your negative thoughts, and by jotting down everything spontaneously, you open yourself up to your real thoughts. Just let it all out.
The next step is to proactively create affirmations out of that negativity. Look at each negative statement closely. How can you turn it into something better? If you wrote down that you can’t save up enough money, write “I am good at saving up enough money” on the opposite side. Across “There is no way for me to lose weight”, write “I can lose weight easily”. Do this for every negative statement on your piece of paper, and if you’re having a hard time, don’t be afraid to write that you are “getting better at…” or that you are “learning to…” so that you know you’re making progress.
Finally, once you’re done with your list, post it somewhere you can see it every day. Read it, internalize it, take it to heart. You can even enlist the help of your family and friends. They can help detect and catch any negative statements and reactions you are making, and remind you of your new mindset. Of course, you shouldn’t expect that all these affirmations will happen overnight. It may take weeks, months, or even years for you to completely change your view of the world. What’s important is that you’ve started, and that you’re doing something about it. Remember what Benjamin Disraeli said, “Action may not always bring happiness; but there is no happiness without action.”
So go ahead—start getting happy, because everything really is awesome!